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This week was supposed to be a continuation of what we started last week about working as a husband and wife and we are really sorry to keep you waiting if you were hoping to see how we break down the tasks in our business.  This last week something happened that really got me thinking about my life and the path we have been on to get where we are now.  I promise we’ll get back to our list of tasks next week.

So, what happened last week?

Something awesome is what happened.  I got to see one of my closest friends from my time in the Air Force for the first time in over 6 years.  Even though my schedule was pretty tight and we were only able to hang out for a little over an hour it gave us the opportunity to catch up on what has been happening in each other’s lives.  I got to hear about about the events that led him to Washington after being in Arizona for so long and I got to tell him about the exciting things that have been happening in our life with our kids and with our business.  The best part of it is that even though it didn’t feel like we had been very good about staying in touch during that time we were able to pick right back up where we left off.  Like I said, it was really, really awesome and I feel so blessed that someone I was such close friends with has come back into my life like this.

I’m sure everyone else has this happen in situations where you see someone from a time in your life that is much different from your current life.  You reminisce about things.  You remember the things you used to do, the places you used to go and how life felt back then.  Memories come flooding back like a tidal wave.  Things you haven’t thought of in years are suddenly in the forefront of your mind.  I can’t believe how many memories came back.  I remembered spending time in his office when we weren’t busy, going to concerts in our off time and our trip to San Diego from Phoenix.  Not only that but memories came flooding back from all different parts of my life in Phoenix when I was in the Air Force.  It was an incredibly exciting time in my life because there were so many possibilities, so many options for my future and it was also the beginning of my relationship and marriage to Patience.Monterey Family PhotographerNot long after I got home I sent another friend a message about seeing our mutual friend in Seattle and we both agreed that our time spent at Luke Air Force base was our favorite time of our careers in the military.  You wouldn’t think that such a simple realization would have had such a huge effect on me.  It really was my favorite time in the Air Force.  I was surrounded by people who were far more than temporary friends that I just so happened to be stationed with.  They felt like brothers and the relationships I built with them still mean the world to me.

What in the world does this have to do with our business and our life now?  

I spent my entire time in the Air Force waiting for the next part of my life to start.  Everything around me at that time felt like it was only temporary while I was planning what I thought I should be doing down the road.  My very favorite part of my time in the military flew by and I was only focused on what was ahead of me and never stopped to enjoy what was happening around me during those very short few years as a young adult.

Most people who know me know I am not a very emotional person but the simple idea that I would never be able to experience that part of my life again absolutely destroyed me.  It’s hard to grasp that one of the best parts of my life so far is long gone and I was so focused on my planning for the future that I didn’t see that I was being blessed and that my life was already pretty awesome.The beach in Monterey CaliforniaIt’s pretty obvious that there is no way to go back and relive that part of my life but it’s definitely possible to make sure I don’t live that way anymore.

No matter if you’re an established business owner, someone who is just getting started or maybe you are going through the stress of planning a wedding.  I hope you’re able to enjoy the time you’re in right now.  I hope you’re able to enjoy the huge breakthroughs you’re having, the hustle you didn’t know you were capable of and the struggles that are teaching you lessons that are necessary to succeed.  It might seem like you are just occupying this moment as you prepare for bigger things but really, you are exactly where you are supposed to be and you are experiencing an amazing part of life that you will never experience again.

I know for a fact that amazing things are happening in my life every single day.  This business Patience and I have started, our two kids and the amazing people who hire us to document some of the biggest moments of their lives are all things that will be gone in what will feel like the blink of an eye.  Sure we have goals and plans but we realize that we need to take the time to be thankful for everything God is blessing us with and that we need to allow ourselves to enjoy our journey.

Remember, like John Lennon said,  “Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans”.  Make your plans and prepare for the future but don’t forget to love your journey.  When it all comes down to it, it’s the journey, not the destination, that will carry the most weight in your life.

Check out the previous posts in our First Year Series here…

Personal Fear

Financial Fear

Marketing Part I

When Were We Ready?

Marketing Part II

Learning from Setbacks

Taking Risks

Outsourcing

The One Roll Project

Working as Husband and Wife Part I

We hear it all the time…  “It must be so amazing to be able to work together!”  That or we hear, “I have no idea how you do it, I could never work with my husband/wife.  They would drive me crazy”.  It has become a super common thing that comes up during weddings or family sessions.

The truth of it is that it’s both of those.  It is amazing and there are days where we don’t know how we’re going to do it.  It’s also one of those things that needs constant work because things change.  Patience and I have gone through several different phases of our business where we did different things and sometimes it didn’t work out very well but we kept working at it.  We kept adjusting and learning because that’s what it takes to find success.Small business advice and photography mentoring from Bellingham photographer Joe and PatienceA few weeks ago we were asked this question by Cicely from Rusted Van Photography

“How do you balance your own creative and artistic vision while maintaining a brand and cohesive look? My husband and I are still trying to find a way to both play an active role in our business, but it’s a challenge! We both love to shoot, and we both enjoy editing – so, we are finding that we end up tripping all over one another and we aren’t sure who should be doing what. Sometimes I think this leads to one of us overstepping the other and one always feels artistically “slighted”.”Small business advice and photography mentoring from Bellingham photographer Joe and PatienceIt really got us thinking about how we got to where we are now and what we went through to figure this question out for ourselves.  A lot of it was trial and error and a lot of it was not giving up when we were discouraged about our place in the business.  Patience used to ask me after sessions, “What is my role in the business?  I don’t feel like I’m contributing anything to the shoots we are doing.”  That is a really tough thing to deal with because we both need to be involved for this whole thing to work and it took some pretty serious growing pains to get to a point where we are both pretty comfortable and confident in the part we play to make what everyone knows as “Joe and Patience”.

After several years of going around and around about the whole business role thing we finally sat down with a pad of paper and a pencil and went through every single part of our business we could think of.  Once we had all of the tasks and workflow steps listed we started assigning them to the person who we felt was the strongest at completing those tasks at the time.  This is going to be the point where you need to let go of your pride and be honest with yourself and your spouse.  These assignments are business related and are not meant to be taken personally.  If you have never done this I want you to say this to yourself out loud.  “These assignments are are for the good of our business and I will not take it personally.”  This is really, really important and like Patience and I, it may need to be saved for a time when you’re in the right mental state to take some criticism in the form of being taken off of doing certain tasks that you enjoy doing.Small business advice and photography mentoring from Bellingham photographer Joe and PatienceI completely understand that it may be pretty difficult to release some control but it will be a really good thing.  By doing this you’ll avoid the constant stepping on each other’s feet that we experienced in the first couple of years being in business together.  You’ll avoid sending nearly duplicate emails to the same client, paying your bills twice and ordering your client’s products twice as well.  Yep, we’ve done all of those and more.  This will literally save you money in the long run and it will help you to avoid embarrassing situations with your clients.  It’s 100% worth the time and potential of temporarily damaged pride to get it done sooner rather than later.

The most important thing to remember is that you and your spouse have a common goal with your business.  Maybe you’re trying to get to the point of leaving a 9-5 or you’re doing it on the side to be able to pay for vacations with your family.  Either way, it doesn’t matter, there is still a common goal and it’s worth taking the time to figure this out.Small business advice and photography mentoring from Bellingham photographer Joe and PatienceSo, grab some paper, a pencil because you’re probably going to want to erase some stuff and sit down together without any distractions.  Make sure you’re both emotionally ready to dig deep and start writing.  You’re going to want to make a list of every single thing that gets handled in your business.  Client communication, bills being paid, scheduling, who does what at every type of session you may shoot if you’re a photographer, etc.  Once you have all of those things listed you’ll need to go through each task and talk about it.  Some of them might be really easy while some of them might be a bit more difficult.  Just remember to be open, honest and that there is a common goal.  

Next week we’re going to go through our list of tasks and explain why we have assigned specific things to each of us.

Thanks for taking the time to read and like always, we’re more than happy to answer questions you might have.  Just send us an email at info@joeandpatience.com

Whoa!  It looks like this thing is becoming a whole series!  Check out the previous posts here.

Personal Fear

Financial Fear

Marketing Part I

When Were We Ready?

Marketing Part II

Learning from Setbacks

Taking Risks

Outsourcing

The One Roll Project

Photos of our 10 year vow renewal by the amazing Jonathan Canlas!